Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in daily life. Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools. Today, thanks to electronic communications, social media platforms and dating apps, each of us is connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore our posts, chats, texts, or dating profiles and leave us feeling rejected as a result. In addition to these kinds of minor rejections, we are still vulnerable to serious and more devastating rejections as well. When our spouse leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain we feel can be absolutely paralyzing.
Emotional stress can be particularly painful and be challenging to deal with. It can take more of a toll that many other forms of stress. Part of the reason is that thinking about a solution, or discussing solutions with a good friend—coping behaviors that are often useful and effective in solving problems—can easily deteriorate into rumination and co-rumination, which are not so useful and effective. In fact, rumination can exacerbate your stress levels, so it helps to have healthy strategies for coping with emotional stress as well as redirecting yourself away from rumination and avoidance coping and more toward emotionally proactive approaches to stress management.
Why we need to take emotional pain as seriously as physical pain
Clinical attributes, or characteristics, associated with pain serve to distinguish the concept of pain from the concept of discomfort. As identified by Montes-Sandoval , include: a an unpleasant, distressful, unwanted, uncomfortable experience; b neurophysiological, psychological, socio-cultural, response to harmful stimuli; c a subjective and difficult to describe sensation that cannot truly be measured or accurately perceived by others; d a unique experience that serves as a protective mechanism for self-preservation; e an adverse sensation to an actual or potential threat of physical or emotional injury or damage; and f distressful thoughts resulting from a mental misperception p. The common character between all uses of the term seems to be related to some form of discomfort.
Chronic, relentless pain puts a tremendous amount of stress on the brain and cognitive abilities. Issues such as low mood, difficulty with memory or concentration are familiar, no matter what the underlying chronic pain condition is. The long-lasting mental effects of chronic pain also possess the ability to reduce quality of life, not only for the individual with pain but for the family also; even sometimes can reduce the length of life, when such pain becomes unbearable.